There are situations in life that happen to people, where there are so many differing opinions, it is difficult to find common grounds.
When it comes to the lives of others, I believe it is best to step back, and look to see what your actions are doing to others you love. All concerned, need to be considered. Most of all, the children.
Today's society has many children who are in divided situations. But I believe there are always common grounds to find. It is in the finding, that the children will not only survive, but thrive.
As parents, ask yourself what You can do to move forward to allow the child(ren) to have the best lives possible. Is there anything You can change to be closer to your child(ren)s happiness?
Are you making decisions that are determined by your personal emotional baggage, or are you open to the realization that lives change, relationships change, and no matter what is happening in each parent's life relationships, the child(ren) need to see both parents freely. The very best situation for a child, is to know that both parents are able to "let go", and allow the child to grow with loving experiences from both parents, and learn that both parents are able to love him/her, even with expanding family situations. It is most important for the child(ren) to see both parent's homes, and have the freedom to visit both parents homes. This way, he/she knows that his/her parents are continuing life in the best possible way. He/she can see that both parents are happy, in their daily life. This will be a positive influence on his/her future!
If you, as parents, are not able to trust one another yet, it is very important to have mediation, and parent plan in writing, that is established with a third party present. This way, your emotional baggage will be kept out of the way of the best plan for the child(ren). Having positive communication with a third party will be the balancing factor, when emotions want to take over.
Scheduling visits, and trips can be difficult, but a calendar plan is very do-able. With forethought and flexible planning, a more peaceful life journey can be taken.
If you can wake up each morning and decide that today is going to be a good day, and that you are going to follow the best path, then you will be successful in creating a positive life for those around you.
I realize all this sounds logical and easy. It is the most difficult thing in the world to know that you are doing what is best. But it is most important to be able to look in the mirror each day, and say, "Yes, I am trying to be the best me possible, for not only my life, but the lives I am going to affect. I am putting my anger and fear aside, and following a path that I believe, will lead to a best future for my child(ren).
It is all anyone can ask.
