Sometimes life doesn't go as you plan. Actually, it almost Never goes as you plan!
If you are in adult relationships that are not working out, and you have children... then you need to step back and ask yourself ... What the heck are you doing to your kids, while you are being self absorbed.
Are you denying your child(ren) love and contact of both parents?
Are you putting restrictions on someone; restrictions that are not honestly needed? Are you doing this out of fear, or spite?
Are you attempting to control situations that you do not need to control, out of baseless fear?
If you are in a point in your life that is complex, confusing, and hurting your inner being...
Ask yourself if your actions are helping, or hurting your child(ren).
You may talk a good game of "communication", but if you are not listening to the needs of others, then you are not a good communicator.
If you are too focused on yourself, and how You feel a situation should be played out, then you might well be not doing what is honestly best for your loved ones.
Are you being truthful about wanting what is best for those you love, or ... are you attempting to control situations that are not your concern?
Are you so fearful of being hurt, that you are demanding, controlling, and not doing what is best for all concerned?
Are you able to believe in yourself enough to let go, and do what is best for everyone, especially the children?
Do you realize that ... the more you attempt to control every situation, the more difficult life gets for you?
Do you talk a good game of "trust"... but in reality, you don't trust yourself enough to trust others?
Just some things to think about...
Who are you, on the inside? Not the person you show everyone.. but the person Inside?
Are you hurting your child(ren) by not believing in yourself?
Are you so unsure of yourself that you must attempt to be in control of every situation, whether or not it is your job to do so?
Isn't it time to let go enough, ... so that in the long run, you will find peace and happiness ... on the inside? Until that happens for you, it cannot happen for the ones you love...
Think about it...
Really ... Think...
As the Gibran poems says...
Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
