Inner peace will bring a calmness to your outer being.
I am working on mine.
It helps to smile, believe me!
It also helps to let go of the things you can't control, or shouldn't attempt to control.
Inner peace feels good.
There is a balance we all need to find, and life passions we need to pursue.
We all need to know that others can't make us happy, can't fix us, and we really shouldn't "use others".
It makes sense to also help others when they need help... without them asking.
Inner peace happens when gratitude is present. (yes, it really has just one t)!
Outer Calm...
comes in time, after one is stable in the Inner Peace arena... :O)
Sarcasm hurts...
We all do it, now and again... We all receive it now and again.
If you are reading this, and know you have used sarcasm, please do take time to check this link out.It will help your communication in the future.
The link below will bring you to a great article, one that makes a person really think about this subject. If you send or receive sarcasm, take the time to read this one.
Click to go to article.
A lifetime of seasons, time moves on...make your list of REASONS TO LIVE
Round and round we go, and where we stop, nobody knows.
Life is cyclical, seasonal, constant.
In our pursuit for a good life, enjoyable life, and also a life that we can look back on, and know we have left a positive path for others to walk, we sometimes get lost in the everyday shuffle of work, schedules, seemingly endless to do lists. Many of us wander in small circles, and our daily life path doesn't lead us to the dreams and goals we had as children, and young adults. We walk in muddy boots, unable to climb out of the quagmire.
Maybe, we should take a break from the routine, and think about our Life Goals. Time waits for no one, it keeps moving, and we have no control over that fact. We do have control over how we decide to spend our time. Sure we have to 'pay the bills'. There are needs that must be met. Humans need shelter, food, and a reason to live. That really sums up the needs of the human. It seems simple enough, but often we spend a life time circling, rather than aiming ourselves toward.
I personally have decided to make my list of 'reasons to live'. This is not to say that I am not living now; I am. The list is to help me gain insight to the more important reasons that I am alive, and how my life can be a part of a positive world for the future. Each person's life affects another life, and that life affects another. The butterfly theory in action!
This list will help me gain my footing and allow me to travel the path toward my life goals.
Why not take time this week, to create your list? Keep the list handy, and each week journal the things you did that helped you get closer to your life goals. The list is personal, and you can share it, or not. This exercise is for you, and you alone. You don't even need to tell anyone you are doing it. You can make your list flexible, and add to it, or subtract from it, as you realize your dreams, and goals. I haven't decided if I want to share my list. I might share parts of it a bit later. The point of my writing today... is to jump start your brain... and my own... toward life goals. While we are circling, we might as well be circling toward a more rewarding path, and leave a positive legacy.
Round and round we go, and when we stop, no one knows.
Life is cyclical, seasonal, constant.
In our pursuit for a good life, enjoyable life, and also a life that we can look back on, and know we have left a positive path for others to walk, we sometimes get lost in the everyday shuffle of work, schedules, seemingly endless to do lists. Many of us wander in small circles, and our daily life path doesn't lead us to the dreams and goals we had as children, and young adults. We walk in muddy boots, unable to climb out of the quagmire.
Maybe, we should take a break from the routine, and think about our Life Goals. Time waits for no one, it keeps moving, and we have no control over that fact. We do have control over how we decide to spend our time. Sure we have to 'pay the bills'. There are needs that must be met. Humans need shelter, food, and a reason to live. That really sums up the needs of the human. It seems simple enough, but often we spend a life time circling, rather than aiming ourselves toward.
I personally have decided to make my list of 'reasons to live'. This is not to say that I am not living now; I am. The list is to help me gain insight to the more important reasons that I am alive, and how my life can be a part of a positive world for the future. Each person's life affects another life, and that life affects another. The butterfly theory in action!
This list will help me gain my footing and allow me to travel the path toward my life goals.
Why not take time this week, to create your list? Keep the list handy, and each week journal the things you did that helped you get closer to your life goals. The list is personal, and you can share it, or not. This exercise is for you, and you alone. You don't even need to tell anyone you are doing it. You can make your list flexible, and add to it, or subtract from it, as you realize your dreams, and goals. I haven't decided if I want to share my list. I might share parts of it a bit later. The point of my writing today... is to jump start your brain... and my own... toward life goals. While we are circling, we might as well be circling toward a more rewarding path, and leave a positive legacy.
Round and round we go, and when we stop, no one knows.
Life Purpose
The fact is, humans live longer now, than ever before. Preventive health care, medicines, new technology and the natural desire to stay fit and active have all helped the 'human longevity cause'.
Because we are now here on earth longer, we have more time to learn, enjoy, and challenge ourselves. We also have more time to ask questions!
I am wondering what my life purpose is going to be, for the next 30+ years, now that I have fulfilled the first chapters of my life purpose.
My kids are grown, and on their own. It is great to see them as adults!
Now, I need to find a new passion, that will fill my next years!
I have played with ideas, but nothing has blossomed the way I hoped. Yes, I have hobbies I enjoy. They are creative, and fun, and fill some of the hours. However, they don't seem to be satisfying an internal need for me to do something for this world that will have an impact in the future, when I am no longer here. That is important to me. I need to find the reason I am here.
I believe that all women have that need. Many of my friends seem to be on the edge of discovering their new passions for life. It seems to be a part of the circle of life. We give birth, nurture, and watch our children grow into responsible adults. We agonize over their difficult times, and smile when life for our children is balanced, and good. But in reality, our 'job' of parenting is retired, and our new purpose is in our future. We are in the driver's seat, and we need to map out the road ahead.
I believe I will find the map for me. I will take some time, and journey a bit down a few roads, and see where they lead, where they might intersect with other roads...
On with my life journey, my life purpose!
Because we are now here on earth longer, we have more time to learn, enjoy, and challenge ourselves. We also have more time to ask questions!
I am wondering what my life purpose is going to be, for the next 30+ years, now that I have fulfilled the first chapters of my life purpose.
My kids are grown, and on their own. It is great to see them as adults!
Now, I need to find a new passion, that will fill my next years!
I have played with ideas, but nothing has blossomed the way I hoped. Yes, I have hobbies I enjoy. They are creative, and fun, and fill some of the hours. However, they don't seem to be satisfying an internal need for me to do something for this world that will have an impact in the future, when I am no longer here. That is important to me. I need to find the reason I am here.
I believe that all women have that need. Many of my friends seem to be on the edge of discovering their new passions for life. It seems to be a part of the circle of life. We give birth, nurture, and watch our children grow into responsible adults. We agonize over their difficult times, and smile when life for our children is balanced, and good. But in reality, our 'job' of parenting is retired, and our new purpose is in our future. We are in the driver's seat, and we need to map out the road ahead.
I believe I will find the map for me. I will take some time, and journey a bit down a few roads, and see where they lead, where they might intersect with other roads...
On with my life journey, my life purpose!
Summer Ends... Autumn is arriving
Love this time of year!
The air is more crisp, the breezes cool us off in the evening hours.
The warmth of the August/September sun is soaked in by the goldenrod, and black-eyed susans.
I found a few small gourds on the plants. This is the first year for growing gourds for me. I put the plants in very late. Early/mid July, the garden center had them on sale for a few dollars. Just had to try!
Geese were honking the other morning, and woke me up as they announced they were leaving the area.
My nasturtiums have dried on the stems, and I am collecting the seeds for next year's crop.
I think they might be my new 'favorite flower'... easy to grow, bright and colorful, and they expect nothing from you but a bit of sun and rain. They bless you each year with their seeds, to be put in the drawer til spring.
The grass is still very green, as the summer is not over, but hints of the new season are all around!
The air is more crisp, the breezes cool us off in the evening hours.
The warmth of the August/September sun is soaked in by the goldenrod, and black-eyed susans.
I found a few small gourds on the plants. This is the first year for growing gourds for me. I put the plants in very late. Early/mid July, the garden center had them on sale for a few dollars. Just had to try!
Geese were honking the other morning, and woke me up as they announced they were leaving the area.
My nasturtiums have dried on the stems, and I am collecting the seeds for next year's crop.
I think they might be my new 'favorite flower'... easy to grow, bright and colorful, and they expect nothing from you but a bit of sun and rain. They bless you each year with their seeds, to be put in the drawer til spring.
The grass is still very green, as the summer is not over, but hints of the new season are all around!
Day Off....
I was relaxing with my dark chocolate dove, and the message inside:
"Find little ways to make part of your day like a 'day off '."
Hmmmmmmmmm...
I have the opposite problem, I fear.
I need to have goals for Work hours!
"Find little ways to make part of your day like a 'day off '."
Hmmmmmmmmm...
I have the opposite problem, I fear.
I need to have goals for Work hours!
Changing bad habits...
We all have them. Bad habits die hard.
Mine: over eating, over thinking, procrastinating.
Overeating
I am working on hitting only 1500-1600 calories per day til I reach my goal of 138.
I am walking or gardening, or floor yoga each day. (one mile+, one half hour, or 15-20 minutes.)
Over Thinking
This one is more difficult for me. I have a need to analyze everyone/everything.
I need to learn to 'let go'.
Procrastinating
I begin, but seldom finish.
I wrote 'never finish' first, but then realized I have finished some things I have started. If a person says to me, 'whenever you get to it'... it doesn't get done.
But under time constraints, I manage to complete. I am not always satisfied with the end result, but I know I have it completed. I believe I am a perfectionist in my head... and to reach perfection (or my idea of perfection for any given painting, task, etc...) is not possible. Therefore I 'give up' ... and seldom find an 'end' to a project.
I need to get over the idea of perfection, and enjoy the end result, with flaws...
(whether the flaws are real, or perceived!)
Mine: over eating, over thinking, procrastinating.
Overeating
I am working on hitting only 1500-1600 calories per day til I reach my goal of 138.
I am walking or gardening, or floor yoga each day. (one mile+, one half hour, or 15-20 minutes.)
Over Thinking
This one is more difficult for me. I have a need to analyze everyone/everything.
I need to learn to 'let go'.
Procrastinating
I begin, but seldom finish.
I wrote 'never finish' first, but then realized I have finished some things I have started. If a person says to me, 'whenever you get to it'... it doesn't get done.
But under time constraints, I manage to complete. I am not always satisfied with the end result, but I know I have it completed. I believe I am a perfectionist in my head... and to reach perfection (or my idea of perfection for any given painting, task, etc...) is not possible. Therefore I 'give up' ... and seldom find an 'end' to a project.
I need to get over the idea of perfection, and enjoy the end result, with flaws...
(whether the flaws are real, or perceived!)
I find it odd, but ...
I find many people have told me I talk way too much, when I am either nervous, or excited. So I have been trying to slow down the talking, and say things once, then walking away, either mentally or physically, from the talking. I am waiting til the end of someone's sentence (which is difficult for me!) ...
I find it odd, but now that I am talking less... people ask me why I am not talking! "What is wrong, you aren't talking today."
Hmmmmmmmmmm...
Can't have it both ways. Either you accept my talking , or accept my talking less. I can't appease both avenues of thought. Really, I can't.
I find it odd, but now that I am talking less... people ask me why I am not talking! "What is wrong, you aren't talking today."
Hmmmmmmmmmm...
Can't have it both ways. Either you accept my talking , or accept my talking less. I can't appease both avenues of thought. Really, I can't.
Things I have learned
Don't take life for granted.
Enjoy the day, even if the weather is nasty.
Hug someone.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Really. Don't.
Eat Chocolate. Dark chocolate.
Disagreeing for the fun of it isn't good for you.
If you think you have it bad, open your eyes. There are others that have it much worse.
Don't feel sorry for yourself. It is a waste of energy.
If you have a choice, make it a good one.
Have some fun every day.
Don't worry about what other people think, if you know you are doing the right thing.
Accept that some people are in bad moods, and need to stay there awhile, before they move on.
If you can help someone, do it.
If you can't help someone, because they need to help themselves, don't waste your energy feeling bad.
Don't put people down, to make yourself feel better. It doesn't work.
Tell people the truth, once. Just once. They will either hear it, or not. Repeating it doesn't make it more true.
Listen when someone tells you their truth. It is just as true as yours.
Live with your choices. If you can't live with the choices you make, then change them for the better. Then move forward, and live.
Enjoy the day, even if the weather is nasty.
Hug someone.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Really. Don't.
Eat Chocolate. Dark chocolate.
Disagreeing for the fun of it isn't good for you.
If you think you have it bad, open your eyes. There are others that have it much worse.
Don't feel sorry for yourself. It is a waste of energy.
If you have a choice, make it a good one.
Have some fun every day.
Don't worry about what other people think, if you know you are doing the right thing.
Accept that some people are in bad moods, and need to stay there awhile, before they move on.
If you can help someone, do it.
If you can't help someone, because they need to help themselves, don't waste your energy feeling bad.
Don't put people down, to make yourself feel better. It doesn't work.
Tell people the truth, once. Just once. They will either hear it, or not. Repeating it doesn't make it more true.
Listen when someone tells you their truth. It is just as true as yours.
Live with your choices. If you can't live with the choices you make, then change them for the better. Then move forward, and live.
Summer must be here, it is nearly the 4th of July weekend!
Waking up to rain again today, and it is the 2nd of July. Summer sun has just two days to show up! I am beginning to think our area is the new rainforest. Lush, wet greens that smell of mossy fern growth. Love that part of the new weather pattern! My bones ache each morning, before coffee and ib... but soon after the first cup, I am ready to go!
The weeds think they are in heaven, so my husband and I each fill a large bucket of weeds nearly daily. The exercise is free. The other morning I looked out our window, and realized that even in this lush world, we still have a visitor who is eating the tops of our sunflowers. One would think that with the greens and clover growing abundantly all around, the deer would not choose our garden goodies. But they must know we put some extras in the garden just for their dessert.
Evenings are calm and wonderful now. We sit outside and enjoy the quiet.
Love this part of summer! Of course, in another day or two, the quiet will be interrupted by the wonderful sky shows of the holiday! Summer is official!
The weeds think they are in heaven, so my husband and I each fill a large bucket of weeds nearly daily. The exercise is free. The other morning I looked out our window, and realized that even in this lush world, we still have a visitor who is eating the tops of our sunflowers. One would think that with the greens and clover growing abundantly all around, the deer would not choose our garden goodies. But they must know we put some extras in the garden just for their dessert.
Evenings are calm and wonderful now. We sit outside and enjoy the quiet.
Love this part of summer! Of course, in another day or two, the quiet will be interrupted by the wonderful sky shows of the holiday! Summer is official!
Choice... Keep Moving Forward
Woke up in the middle of the night, startled by a bolt of lightening, and the enormous crash that comes with such a close bolt!
The rain came, and I was lulled back to sleep with the rhythm of the drops hitting the window.
This morning, however, my father's hip joint pains attacked my hips, and I am not walking well.
I moaned, groaned, whined, and whimpered for about two hours. Coffee, and grapenuts with yogurt, with ' ib' for the pain. That was breakfast.
My choice for today: Keep moving through the pain! The bedroom walls need painting!
I am finding that moving up and down the ladder is helping the pain ease.
Funny how a positive choice can make all the difference! (Of course, the 'ib' may have kicked in too, but I CHOOSE to believe that my own choice helped!
So... I was thinking the other day...
Well, if you caught the title of this posting, you know I think most of the time, and my thoughts usually flow freely out to the world, even when the world isn't ready!
However, I was thinking the other day, about something that might be of use to someone out there... so here I am writing about my thoughts...
The 'something'... is this:
What if each of us has a gift that we are supposed to be sharing with others, to make the world better? What if we are holding on to the gift, (or even 'gifts'!) ... and we are not giving to others?
I have been thinking about 'my gifts'... and how I could share them.
I have been gifted with 'talking things out' (heaven knows I have had practice!)
I have not yet opened the gift that requires me to be silent, while others enjoy their gifts. I hope that I learn to untie the knots that hold that gift!
I have been gifted with the love of color, design, and freedom to be creative.
I am realizing that if I share this gift, others may learn to be creative, and enjoy the process, and worry less about the outcome. The process of creating frees the mind from daily stresses, and the fears, anger, hurts that humans hold.
I have been gifted with working with kids, with many needs, and have learned that all kids have their own timing, and that in the long run... all kids will be successful when they are ready. I hope to share some things I have learned as I helped children learn to read, write, and express themselves.
I have been gifted with understanding that as we grow older, we are able to appreciate the gifts others bring to us, share with us. If we listen to our elders, with compassion, and if we listen to our children with compassion, we are in a position to learn much that we have not learned.
I have been gifted with the understanding that if we meet someone new, there is a reason for the meeting. I hope that I am alert, and calm enough to 'hear' the message when I meet the new messenger. And if by chance the message is not one I want to hear, let me know it is a message I need to hear.
I have been gifted with the understanding that sometimes gifts come to us, and we don't open the gifts. They lie wrapped up, unopened for years. Then, when we take the time to unwrap them, we wish we had taken the time to receive them a bit earlier. All gifts are not wrapped in pretty papers, with colorful ribbons. Some come wrapped in brown paper bags. They are often the best gifts!
However, I was thinking the other day, about something that might be of use to someone out there... so here I am writing about my thoughts...
The 'something'... is this:
What if each of us has a gift that we are supposed to be sharing with others, to make the world better? What if we are holding on to the gift, (or even 'gifts'!) ... and we are not giving to others?
I have been thinking about 'my gifts'... and how I could share them.
I have been gifted with 'talking things out' (heaven knows I have had practice!)
I have not yet opened the gift that requires me to be silent, while others enjoy their gifts. I hope that I learn to untie the knots that hold that gift!
I have been gifted with the love of color, design, and freedom to be creative.
I am realizing that if I share this gift, others may learn to be creative, and enjoy the process, and worry less about the outcome. The process of creating frees the mind from daily stresses, and the fears, anger, hurts that humans hold.
I have been gifted with working with kids, with many needs, and have learned that all kids have their own timing, and that in the long run... all kids will be successful when they are ready. I hope to share some things I have learned as I helped children learn to read, write, and express themselves.
I have been gifted with understanding that as we grow older, we are able to appreciate the gifts others bring to us, share with us. If we listen to our elders, with compassion, and if we listen to our children with compassion, we are in a position to learn much that we have not learned.
I have been gifted with the understanding that if we meet someone new, there is a reason for the meeting. I hope that I am alert, and calm enough to 'hear' the message when I meet the new messenger. And if by chance the message is not one I want to hear, let me know it is a message I need to hear.
I have been gifted with the understanding that sometimes gifts come to us, and we don't open the gifts. They lie wrapped up, unopened for years. Then, when we take the time to unwrap them, we wish we had taken the time to receive them a bit earlier. All gifts are not wrapped in pretty papers, with colorful ribbons. Some come wrapped in brown paper bags. They are often the best gifts!
Searching...
Human flaw, this searching outwardly...
Waking up searching for validation, assurance, freedom, love...
Search within.
Waking up searching for validation, assurance, freedom, love...
Search within.
Life ... Live it Daily!
Each and every day is a gift.
Think of that, when you wake up, and open your 'gift', to see what you have inside!
Take in the sights, the colors, the sounds!
Take time to really see what is around you, and all that you have, and are able to do!
When the days come that give you clouds, and rain, remember they are there for a reason. The sun and warmth will return. It has since the beginning of time, and it will continue to return. You just have to open your heart and mind.
If you have days that are sad, that is okay. Balancing life's emotions, is part of the journey. We all need down times to realize how blessed we are, in comparison with others. Just when we are feeling low, someone comes along that is in need, even more than we are... that is the journey of understanding.We are all connected, and we all need to look beyond our own pain and need... and see how we can help others.
By doing that, we will find our own peace. Taking time to stay as healthy as possible, and having friends to talk to, will get us through the rough times. There are many possible roads to travel. Some have bumps, and that isn't so bad... After all, they are the roads that give us the beauty of nature. The fast pace highways often lead us to more stress than the bumpy roads... ! Accept the bumps, and move forward...
Think of that, when you wake up, and open your 'gift', to see what you have inside!
Take in the sights, the colors, the sounds!
Take time to really see what is around you, and all that you have, and are able to do!
When the days come that give you clouds, and rain, remember they are there for a reason. The sun and warmth will return. It has since the beginning of time, and it will continue to return. You just have to open your heart and mind.
If you have days that are sad, that is okay. Balancing life's emotions, is part of the journey. We all need down times to realize how blessed we are, in comparison with others. Just when we are feeling low, someone comes along that is in need, even more than we are... that is the journey of understanding.We are all connected, and we all need to look beyond our own pain and need... and see how we can help others.
By doing that, we will find our own peace. Taking time to stay as healthy as possible, and having friends to talk to, will get us through the rough times. There are many possible roads to travel. Some have bumps, and that isn't so bad... After all, they are the roads that give us the beauty of nature. The fast pace highways often lead us to more stress than the bumpy roads... ! Accept the bumps, and move forward...
Friendships and Time...
The other day I received an email about a high school reunion coming up... 40 years! Oh my gosh... !
Although I won't be attending, due to family trip... I loved the fact that I could connect with my past friends again! I sent my information, and requested that my email be sent off to Brenda.
Within two days, I was emailing her, after 40 years!
And within another two days, Nancy and I were emailing...
Friends from 7th grade dances, and swimming at Lake Paron!
Feels like yesterday!
UPDATE: Sue also connected! This is so much fun for me, knowing that we gals are once again connected! It is important to keep your life going in a positive direction, and circles are the earth's way ... !
Connections in life are our circles of life... The Lion King roars!
Although I won't be attending, due to family trip... I loved the fact that I could connect with my past friends again! I sent my information, and requested that my email be sent off to Brenda.
Within two days, I was emailing her, after 40 years!
And within another two days, Nancy and I were emailing...
Friends from 7th grade dances, and swimming at Lake Paron!
Feels like yesterday!
UPDATE: Sue also connected! This is so much fun for me, knowing that we gals are once again connected! It is important to keep your life going in a positive direction, and circles are the earth's way ... !
Connections in life are our circles of life... The Lion King roars!
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